HOW TO DUMP A PARTNER
Welcome to the most difficult conversation you will have with another person and its no longer OK to day "It's not you, it's me." What makes this conversation all the more difficult is that the person on the receiving end rarely sees it coming. "If you're going to end a relationship, be prepared for the possibility that your soon-to-be ex had no clue that you have been distancing yourself emotionally or dropping hints about how dissatisfied you were," says clinical psychologist Dr Julian Watchorn. "Because of the content of this conversation, the tone is crucial. No matter how exasperated the other person becomes – and they will – the calmer you should strive to be. If there's a chance things might get out of hand, enlisting a counselor might contain the situation."
As for the delivery, psychologist Susan Nicholson says it's all about balance. It's important that you are honest so the other person knows why you are ending the relationship. But by the same token, you also need to be sensitive to protect their self-esteem. It's best to avoid glib "I can't be the partner you deserve"
cliches and stick to the specific facts behind your decision. You also need to make it clear that it's final "of a mixed message will be transmitted and the other person might think there's a change of resurrecting the relationship and the agony of the break-up will be prolonged."
Can you use e-mail or SMS to dump a partner" "Cowardly," says Nicholson. "The longer you've been with a person, the more of a face-to-face explanation you owe them."
With Compliments of Abbey Rose,
Clairvoyant & Tarot Reader